He Needs Stars? Sound Off

Hello my dear readers and friends, 

Allow me to sound off for a moment if you will. 

There is a young woman I occasionally watch on YouTube. Her channel has some decent content every now and then about femininity which I am all about but today, her videos was, oh how shall I say, cringe worthy. 

She entitled the video something along the lines of "How to help your husband be more masculine". My first thought was, "Oh I just have to see this" and sorry to say I didn't mean it in a kind way..So, I clicked on play. 

As I listened to her, mind you she's only twenty four years old I just sat there with my eye brows up saying to myself, "is she serious?" She continues to give her "life long advice" on how to help other women help their men become more masculine and then she proceeds to tell her audience what she does for her husband. Here's where I about almost threw my phone. 

She has a 'Reward System" set up for him.. Yes, you read that right. A Reward System....They actually have one for him and one for her that hangs on their refrigerator. She says they sat down and spoke about what they expected from each other. Okay, that is good advice but then.... here's where my spine began to crawl like nails on a chalkboard...she said, each time her husband does something or changes something they spoke about.... SHE PUTS A STAR NEXT TO IT ON HER REFRIGERATOR!!!!....

My mouth almost hit the floor and I thought to myself, "Girl, ya'll got some SERIOUS issue's if you need to do this and you don't even realize it."

Seriously? Millennial's need a 'reward system' for being men like they should have always been..

Is this the result of the "everyone gets a trophy just for participating age?". I hate to say this but I see these two heading towards divorce court in some years if their marriage is based on a 'reward system' because mommy & daddy didn't teach their son how to be a man...

Poor Millenial's, they are in so much trouble and truth is, so are we because THEY are the future of this country when WE are too old for anyone to care about us.....

Lord, help us...

Until next time...

It's Been A Long Time

Hello readers and friends,

I can't believe it's been since August since I've put a post here on my blog. It's been a busy summer here in my neck of the woods. Mind you summers here in my part of the South are pretty long. We are already heading into November this coming week and as of this writing it is over Eighty degrees outside and so humid you could cut it with a knife. We are praying for the cooler air next week to get here quickly.

So I think I left off with you all about when my family came to stay in August. To be honest the next couple of weeks after they left were a little hard for me. You see, we are a small family and I miss them, a lot. We don't have the finances to move back home which was why we left to begin with and really don't have it to go visit throughout the year either so it's a long time between actual physical visits and when they leave it sets my heart in a sad place until I am able to work around it best I can. 

September was a very busy month for us. There were vet visits for checks ups (we have five dogs) and my husband had a lot of doctor appointments. Some of my readers may be aware but for those who aren't, my husband has severe spinal issue's. In the last Fifteen years he's had nine back surgeries with two of them being fifty percent reconstructions which we had to go out of state for. All of them with the exception of one was a success. Because of this damage he also suffers with permanent spinal nerve damage. As you can imagine this is a very heavy cross to bare day in and day out along with too much pain medication that just barely helps and then there are his cardiac health issue's as well. 

The last week in September on the twenty-third he had the first of two spinal operations to implant a spinal cord stimulator. The goal of a stimulator is to use high frequency signals from the spinal cord to the brain to cut down on the pain and hopefully pain medication as well and bring back some quality of life which, my husband has not had much of in the last seven or so years. The first surgery was to have the leads run in the spinal canal. The second surgery was done a week later on the thirtieth to have the internal battery pack placed and the lead wires hooked up to that. As of now it seems to have been a success, his pain has been cut almost eighty percent and he's dropped down on one of his pain medications but I am still cautious because as you can imagine there is a lot of recovery time for this and he hasn't moved around much. I guess you could say I am optimistically cautious to see how he does once he's able to really get out there and move some. For the most part of October it's been a lot of bandage changing, worrying about infection and recovering. 

Last week I came down with a sinus infection which then ran into the flu and that put me out of commission for a week or so and now my husband has it. Only with him it goes straight to his chest so I made a doctor appointment right away and sure enough he has bronchitis. More medication and more recovery. Of course there's always every day life and without him being able to help that doesn't leave me much time for myself these days. Still have to do the cooking, cleaning, washing, taking care of the dogs etc. then there is my faith commitments as well. By the end of the day I am too tired to write. 

This week coming up will be busy as well. I have to take all five dogs to the vet (spread over two days) for nail trimmings and then Friday is a Holy Day Of Obligation in the Catholic Church called All Saints Day. If you don't know what a Holy Day is, it means all Catholics are required to attend Mass on that day. I've been trying to play catch up the last few days from being down for the count last week but still have many things left to do such as the laundry and cleaning and only a few days to where I'll have the time and energy... 

I will try as best I can to get on here and say hello within the next week and soon as Fall and Winter decide to show up here in the South I hope to be here at least a few days a week .. 

I do hope you're all well and life is treating you well.. 

Until next time, 

I Am Blessed

Hi everyone, 

This year my family from New Jersey came down to see me and for vacation. It was the first time in almost twenty years we were all in the same room at one time. Children grow into adults so quickly and before you know it they are off in all different directions. I think that's what made this vacation this year so incredible and so special. We ALL had an amazing time!! So much so that no one wanted to leave and there were tears when they did. It wasn't that we did so many activities with each other but it was that we spent really good quality time together just enjoying each other, talking laughing, remembering, wishing, hoping. It's been a couple weeks now that they have all gone home and are back to living their lives and I mine but, I miss them very much. Here are some of the photos we took. There were over four hundred photos' taken but these are just some of my favorites. I hope you enjoy my happiness. 

(back row) My youngest great niece Sofia (3) her dad my oldest nephew Billy, his wife Kim, my nephew Eric, my brother Bill, my sister in law Dorothy, my niece Jillianne, Billy's step daughters Savanah and Madison and my oldest great niece Billy's oldest daughter Olivia (5). 

This is my entire family. We may be small but we have big love. 

(Billy and his youngest Sofia)

(Myself and great niece number one, Olivia (5) )

(Myself and great niece number two, Sofia (2)

(Myself and my niece in law, Billy's wife, Kim)

 (Myself and my big strapping nephew Eric) 

Myself and my niece whom I adore, Jillianne

Myself and my big brother Bill.

Olivia and Sofia. These two little monkey's who I can't get enough of! 

Easy Like A Sunday Morning

(Myrtle Beach SC Aug 25th 2019)

I woke up this morning too late to attend Mass (will be heading to confession for sure this week). I wasn't feeling well last night and figured I wasn't going to be feel the greatest in the morning either. I didn't get out of bed until after Eight AM which is pretty unheard for me and as expected I wasn't feeling all that great.

I schlepped my way into the kitchen and put some coffee on. Mr was up already a few hours. While my coffee was brewing I gave breakfast to all the dogs. 

Mr and I were sitting at the dining room table talking over coffee as we usually do on Sunday mornings while I was filling his medication bottles for the week ahead. 

The weather this morning was unusually cool. Only Sixty Six when I got up , nice breeze and cloudy. Looked at my weather app and no rain just clouds all day. Suddenly I got it in my mind to get dressed and go to the beach. I just had this longing to put my toes in the sand and watch the ocean waves. I find watching the ocean extremely peaceful and relaxing. 

So that's what I did. Threw on some clothes, no makeup, Mr stayed home with the pups because Rosie (our 5 mos old GSD) is too young to be trusted home alone yet and off I went. Took me only twenty minutes to get to the beach and there I was.

My toes in the sand watching water. The Surf was rough this morning but it was so incredibly relaxing to me. When I look and listen to the ocean I don't think about anything. My thoughts are just empty and it was just what I needed today.

(Myrtle Beach SC 8/25/19)

 I even wrote in the sand.

Not the best art but, I enjoyed making it. On my way back to the car I walked slowly and founds some really nice sea shells I'd like to make some jewelry out of. I came home, took a shower, took a nice nap.

Just finished grilling dinner for the Mr. and now I am trying to settle in for the night. Thought I would share my day with you before I close the computer for the night. Going to get into bed, pray, read and read some scriptures. I pray you all had a relaxing Sunday. 

Peach Pitts

I think my verdict is finally in on the reboot of BH90210 and the verdict is, drum roll....................................

It's not for me anymore. Sure, when I was in my early twenties I was a completely devoted to the show, characters and story lines but now, umm, not so much..

I really wanted to like it. I so wanted to like it but the story line is just the same thing we see the country divided over day in and day out. 

The whole "Gabrielle" exploring her homosexual side, the adultery, the whole, "I am woman hear me roar" feminism that has only served to hurt women more than it's ever helped them with Ian Zerring and the new female writer . Nah, nope. 

I've grown up. I don't agree with any of it, I don't like and I don't want to have anything to do with any of it. This show is just what it's like being 'of this world' and personally I am not 'of' this world. 
I am 'in' it but I am not 'of' it. 

So the "new" BH90210 will no longer be on my TV and honestly I don't think it's going to make it past two seasons anyway, IF it even makes it past the first. 

Figuring It Out

I think as people we are always evolving, always changing. I think with each new season of life we change and, I believe I am changing again or I should correctly say, I think the Lord is changing me again. As you read further please remember this is just my opinion about myself. You do not have to agree, we CAN agree to disagree all I ask is that you be respectful in the comment section. 

For most of my life when it came to dress I was always one who wore tight, skin tight jeans, and tops. Then again for most of my life I had the figure to do it and, these days, it doesn't seem to matter if you have the figure or not women are still doing it. I am less than a year away from being Fifty God willing, and I no longer have the figure I once had but thinking about it I believe even if I did I would no longer dress in that way or in a manner that makes men undress you with their eyes. I used to believe that was fine. That "I still had it".. At least that's what the world tells us. God tells us as women something entirely different. 

Over the past year or so I have been trying to get closer and closer to God. Wanting to live for Him, and how He wants me to live, the way He wants me to live and I know my former way of dressing is not it.  In the past year I have been dressing more modestly, something that is severely lacking in today's society and fashions. 

Lately I have really been wanting to dress more feminine. It makes me feel more like a lady and it also projects to others that I respect myself and they should too although the later doesn't always works because not everyone in this world was taught manners. Another thing severely lacking in our society and a post for another day. 

Getting back to my 'new body shape' I have to relearn how to dress and it's not easy. I know the basic style for my body but today's fashions are fast fashion, you know, the kind that lasts maybe a season and then it's time for new because it's already worn out. To dress in quality clothing these days is expensive. So I have just been looking around on the internet at all different websites to see styles, quality, price and it can just be overwhelming! So, I am very slowly trying to figure it out.. Do any of you who dress modestly have any good places you can get quality, modest, yet feminine clothing that isn't the price of a mortgage payment? Please let me know in the comments. I am kind of feeling like I am out in the middle of the ocean without a life jacket here. 

It's Been Lost

The art of homemaking has all but been lost. There are still a few of us left but the numbers are dwindling. Homemaking like so many good and healthy things of the past have been lost and replaced by the modern way of doing things, most of which are not very good for the individual person nor the family unit. 

When I was a child in the 1970's homemaking was still alive and well in most homes. Before my father passed away in 1979 my mother was a stay at home mom. A, homemaker. She kept our home neat and clean, along with our bedrooms and clothing. She cooked good hearty meals for her growing children and hard working husband. Dinner time was at five pm every night and we would sit around the table as a family and talk about our day. My parents mostly wanted to know what we did in school, how was the day etc. These days family units rarely exist anymore. Everyone, including the children are all going in five directions at once. There is no more family dinner talk, children and adults grab something on the fly or they are staring at smart phones, TV's, video games. All of this has helped lead to the breakdown of the family. Saint John Paul II once said, "As the family goes so goes the world". He couldn't have been more right. 

Children are no longer brought up in a God loving home, where Mom is always there making life pleasant instead, children are career goal driven from the time they can walk. It's all about their future careers and how much money that will bring them so they can buy lots of things. It is extremely rare these days to find children being reared in a Godly home, instilled with good morals and values, helping at home and just being children. I met a grandmother the other day while standing in line at the store. She had her two year old grand-daughter with her who was, playing on her 'smart phone". She couldn't talk much but she knew how to use a smart phone at two years old. These days we are starting to scramble our childrens brains with electronics from the moment they can walk. 

Young girls are being taught they don't 'need no man', boys are being taught 'it's okay to be a girl' and some girls are being taught it's okay to be a boy. The femininity that was once the beauty of being female has been turned into masculinity and the masculinity that was once the beauty of being a boy and one day a man has all but been lost as well and turned into something feminine.  

Young adults these days are among the most confused, and misdirected humans anyone has ever seen. They do not know right from wrong anymore they hold no moral values to what is good. All of this is so incredibly sad. 

In my day I did not have any of the issue's these children and young adults of today do. We did not worry about sex at the age of five, we did not worry 'what gender we wanted to be at three years of age. We were children. We played like children we were sheltered as much as possible from the cruel things of the world for as long as possible. For most children my age, mom was home.... making home a place you always wanted to be, dad was out making a living to support us all. We had a set dinner time every night and the family table was for eating and sharing our day. Weekends were for family, friends and family vacations in the summer. There were no electronics to get in the way, there was no TV time during dinner or any other time it was not permitted. We played outside in the sunshine and caught lightening bugs after the sun went down. Although I don't 'like' getting older I am truly grateful for having grown up in the time I did..Most of us, compared to today had an idyllic childhood. And that idyllic childhood was made possible for us because of homemakers. 

I pray that young parents of today will see the value and importance in being a homemaker and rearing children in a Godly home, and letting them just be children before the world attempts to corrupt them. This is what the world needs again. Old fashioned ways of living all propped upon the homemaker and the love she brings to it.