November 2, 2018

Social Media Manipulation


You don't even realize it's happening when it's happening! 

Hello friends, 

Today I wanted to chat with you about social media manipulation. Mostly for me that would be Facebook and Twitter. In all honesty, I had resisted both of these social mediums for years. Everyone kept asking me to join and everything in my body was screaming not too. I held out for quite a few years until, my nephews and my niece were old enough to be on there and wanted to 'share' things with me. Well I couldn't say no to them. I can say no to just about anyone or anything but not them. So, I joined. Both. What a HUGE mistake. 

I joined Facebook in 2009 and as I am sitting here writing this I just hit me that, I have LET NINE YEARS OF MY LIFE FLASH PAST ME DOWN A SOCIAL MEDIA BLACK HOLE!! CRIPES! (yes I yelled that out loud as I was typing it!) I never really thought about how many years it's been. Sheeeeeweee.. Okay, let me get my brain back in my skull...dang! Nine years...

I have been trying to back away from Facebook and Twitter for the past couple of months. I could seriously sit down at my laptop and 6PM and before I knew it, it was 11pm. FIVE hours had slipped past me and I didn't even know what I had read or seen. Lately I have been trying to pay close attention to what I am consuming on Facebook, especially in the early mornings. That's usually my heaviest Facebook usage. After I wake up. I grab my phone and start scrolling. As I did this, this morning I realized in the span of 15 minutes I read and saw something that made me angry and I had watched a small video clip that had me crying fifteen minutes after I had woken up!... Right at that exact point I said to myself, "whoa!" are you kidding? You're not awake an half an hour yet and already you're feeling all these kinds of emotions not because of something you created but because of something someone else did.. That's when I dropped my phone and shut it off.. 

I don't know what took me so long to wake up to all this. Eh, some of us are slow learners (raising hand) but, I am glad I did because today I am able to see just how much we have our emotions played with and manipulated by social media, news outlets, TV shows, commercials, etc. I figure none of this can be good for ones emotional health. It just can't be. Now that it's nine years later and I now see how all this social media consumption has manipulated my emotional health my decision today is to back away. Far away. I've also decided that I will use Social media to my advantage not the other way around. Only using it for my blog, checking in on friends I really do want to keep in touch with and pages or groups I do enjoy all the while staying away from the newsfeed. 

And wouldn't you know it, my sweet nephews and niece who nine years ago begged me to join for them, are now all grown up, one has children of his own, the other two have careers and lives of their own and they haven't been on social media in more than a year!!!




11 comments:

  1. If anyone wants to get our attention they tend to act up. That's basically all the news is now: gossip and acting up to get our attention. Everything is a "news alert". Everything is now an outrage we must get upset over. Every ad is telling us we are in danger or so much worse off if we don't buy their product. Everything is screaming to be noticed now. It's so frustrating, but it works. We look. Then we regret it. And it's mainly done via social media now. It's unhealthy and addictive. I'm trying to stay as distanced from it as I can. Good luck in your attempts to avoid it, Robyn. Very hard to do. Very hard. P.S. Forgive me if my comment adds any stress to your day. Even commenting on it stresses me! lol Oye!

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    1. Hi Kim, LOL no worries your comment didn't stress me.. Your comment is absolutely spot on.. And yes, it's very hard to back away but I have actually been doing it. I think I'm so disgusted by it all I can't take more than five minutes scrolling anymore which is HUGE for me.. XO

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  2. I only go on Facebook to see what different friends or family members are doing. Now and then I'll share a song or something interesting. The only things I ever post are videos of my granddaughter singing. It's the only media type thing I do, and I don't spend much time there at all. I use my blog or email or messaging (regular messaging) to communicate. For TV, I mostly watch favorite re-runs. I try to stay away from the news. It's always bad news. You are smart to move away from all the stress the media brings. You have a wonderful day, hugs, Edna B.

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    1. Hi Edna, In the last week or so I've been doing the same thing on Facebook basically. I have found myself spending no less than 5 or 10 minutes on there which is great for me. I also don't watch much TV at all. I turn the local news on at night and in the morning to see the weather and if I do watch TV I am usually watching and old movie on Turner Classic Movies or EWTN but even thats rare.. I hope you had a wonderful weekend Edna XO

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  3. I rarely go to Facebook. Lack of time and I find it upsetting and braggy. I love it for pictures of my grand kids but that is about it. But I can see how easy it would be to get sucked in.

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    1. Im getting to that point believe it or not. Ive been only scrolling through there for five minutes maybe ten and then I get disgusted and click off LOL XO

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  4. I am a Facebook, drop out! I started my page to keep up with family. Then a few friends joined, then lots of 'friends' I didn't even know and so it went. I became overwhelmed with the negative feed I was getting. Even though there are some groups I like, I found I could still connect with them, I did not need Facebook. Family, now sends me emails and we chat that way, and they send ton's of pictures. Many more pictures then I was seeing on Facebook.

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    1. Hi Nonie,
      I belong to a few groups on there that I do enjoy mostly about my faith so I check those individually. My family sends me text messages with photos and we talk on the phone a lot and I like it this way much better. I don't want to have to depend on social media to see photos of my family etc.. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts Nonie :) XO

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  5. Robyn, I don't do face book or Instagram. One's too informal and one can be nasty..I bet you know which is which too. My daughters do face book...they will show me nice things when I am around. Life is hard enough without meanies being mean. LOL. Honestly, some of my family members (Siblings) tell every little thing in their lives on face book. Yet will not call or text if someone of their family is having surgery or sick. Good grief. Take time out and relax. Blessings to you, xoxo, Susie

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    1. Hi Susie,
      I SO know what you mean. I think a lot of people use social media as a sounding board to air their dirty laundry or get attention. I have no idea when that happened. Used to be when you were upset etc you picked up the phone and called a friend which is what I still do. I have some cousins who do that as well. Tell everything on facebook but never communicate any other way. I had a cousin die and no one even called to tell me. When I messaging with my other cousin they were shocked I didn't know because "they had it all over facebook!!"... LOL good grief!.. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this Susie :) XO

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  6. Robyn, I agree, we can spend a lot of time on social media....I tend to spend a lot of time on youtube.....I have switched a lot of what I look at too ...I do it to decompress. Believe it or not as bad as that has gotten time wise I have never had a facebook page which I really am glad of. I do have instagram and joined cause of my kids and I do enjoy it but am limited as to who I look at and who looks back....I have very few subs and I sub back to very few....I have noticed as of late more advertisements and also things that are upsetting. I try and limit my time on there but it is a work in progress it is additive. We just all really need to be mindful for what is the right amount for each of us....but wasn't life much simpler and more peaceful before all this technology....okay I am gonna say it Jesus we are ready can you come please....sending you love....xoxo....Debbie

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